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Federal data shows first-time buyers in California increasingly rely on family for help.
When Melanie Gerber started working as a mortgage loan officer in Riverside seven years ago, she didnāt see many first-time buyers hitting up their parents for help.
Now she sees it all the time.
āI have one that just went into escrow yesterday,ā Gerber said. āTheyāre having money gifted from the family.ā
She estimates about half of her borrowers are now getting money from mom and dad.
āI think the parents just want them to make it on their own and know they canāt do it,ā she said.
Gerberās observations are backed up by federal data. If you want to buy a home in California, it increasingly helps to have relatives who can chip in.
KPCC crunched the numbers on more than 600,000 FHA loans, a type of government-backed mortgage thatās common with first-time buyers.
FHA borrowers can use money from relatives for their down payment. In recent years, that kind of family financial help has been on the rise in California.
Back in 2011, about one in four FHA loans in California included down payment money from relatives. Today, itās one in three.
Percent of family-assisted down payments for FHA loans, by county
County-level data via HUD; current through May 2018
Family down payment support is playing an even bigger role in many parts of California, outstripping the national rate of 26 percent.
Last year, in dozens of California ZIP codes ā covering parts of East San Jose, North Hollywood, South Central Los Angeles, Santa Ana and Alpine in eastern San Diego County ā at least half of FHA borrowers were getting family members to help with the down payment.
Many first-time buyers choose FHA loans for their low down payment options and relaxed credit requirements. FHA loans have been declining as a share of Californiaās overall mortgage market. But still, in 2017 about 15 percent of all homes sold in California had an FHA loan according to a survey from the California Association of Realtors.
These loans can help young families get into lower to mid-priced California homes. However, lending limits max out at close to $680,000, making FHA loans unrealistic for Californiaās most expensive markets. Very few people use them to buy homes in areas like San Francisco or LAās Westside.
FHA loans with family down payment assistance by ZIP Code, 2011 ā May 2018
Data via HUD, U.S. Census; ZIP Codes with fewer than 50 loans not shown on map
Loan officer Melanie Gerber gave her son nearly $10,000 to get him into a $365,000 house in Riverside.
āI saw the prices going higher and higher. And I knew that if we didnāt help him, he would not be able to buy something when he was actually ready to purchase,ā she said.
Gerberās 24-year-old son Brandon Miller said, āI could not be in this house without my familyās help.ā
Miller has embraced homeownership. His modest ranch house has a nice front yard where his two massive Great Danes can run around. He enjoys watering the plants and looking for mid-century furniture to highlight the houseās 1950s charm.
Living here keeps Miller close to his parents.
āI do everything possible to show that Iām grateful for what they did,ā he said. āI keep my house nice. I try to improve my house when I can. I want to show that what they invested in is actually going toward something good.ā
Miller shares the house with a few renters, so he can easily cover his portion of the monthly payments. He said it costs him less than renting an apartment. And heās building equity.
āI definitely feel like I was able to achieve the California Dream, since a lot of people nowadays canāt afford houses,ā he said.
Parental help takes many forms
Median California home prices are now more than double the national average. Student loan debt and unaffordable rents can make it hard to save. When parents see their kids struggling under those pressures, of course they want to help.
And theyāre not just gifting down payments to their kids. Theyāre also co-buying houses.
A recent quarterly report from Irvine-based real estate data firm Attom Data Solutions found that 48 percent of houses purchased in San Jose had sales deeds that listed multiple non-married buyers (often an indication that parents are co-buying with their children). The same was true for 38 percent of homes purchased in San Francisco.
Some parents are making all-cash purchases for their kids. Family money can be involved in other ways that are harder to detect. Buyers can purchase homes with inheritances or trust fund money, which donāt show up in data on FHA loans.
Parental help is happening in many non-FHA loans as well.

Labor union representative Raphael Leib used a conventional mortgage to buy a $390,000 house on the Eastside of Los Angeles three years ago with his wife, a high school French teacher.
The couple is raising their two young children in the three-bedroom house thanks in part to about $40,000 worth of help from their parents.
āHaving a gift from both our sets of parents really meant that we could find a place that our family could grow into,ā Leib said.
Leib has seen others also tapping into generational wealth to buy homes in Los Angeles. He doesnāt want to see long-term residents priced out of his City Terrace neighborhood.
āThis is a nice neighborhood. The neighbors have been here a long time. I know them all well. They know me well. Itās a close knit community,ā he said. āIād rather not see it be gentrified.ā
Who has wealth to share?
Housing experts worry about the rising reliance on family wealth in California.
āWe have huge wealth inequality and homeownership inequalities by race and ethnicity,ā said UC Berkeleyās Carolina Reid.
Many black and Hispanic families today donāt have as much wealth to share as white families, said Reid, because past government policies shut them out of homeownership. As recently as the 1960s, the practice of āredliningā explicitly denied government-backed home loans to residents in minority neighborhoods.
Reid predicts todayās wealth gaps will only get worse if first-time buyers increasingly need to have parents who can help.
āWho has wealth now ā and who can bequest that wealth to their children ā is a direct consequence of our government lending practices 50 years ago,ā Reid said.
Richard Green, director of USCās Lusk Center for Real Estate, said families that have owned homes in California for generations have an advantage. Others may need to leave the state if they want to purchase a house.
āItās almost like weāre feudal now,ā Green said. āYou inherit the manor from your family if you happen to be a landowner. If youāre not a landowner, itās really hard to get in.ā
However, money from relatives isnāt just benefiting families that have always been homeowners.
Jackie Dillon, a social worker at a Los Angeles hospital, was raised by a single mom who immigrated to the United States from Mexico.
Dillonās family has always rented. Which is why getting an FHA loan to buy a house in South Los Angeles earlier this year was such a big deal.
āWe had balloons in here,ā Dillon said. āWe never see my mom cry. But she actually shed a tear that day. She was just so happy. I think she felt proud of me.ā

āI did not want to be renting my entire life and not establishing any wealth,ā she said. āFor me, it means that weāre out of poverty and actually building a future.ā
Dillonās savings covered roughly half of the down payment and closing costs on the $450,000 house. But she had another source of help ā money passed down to her after her grandmotherās death.
āMy grandma was the matriarch of our family,ā Dillon said. āOur family has always had very intelligent, strong and compassionate women. So that, to me, was just her helping us yet again.ā
Dillon said if she kept saving, in a few years she might have been able to afford the down payment on her own. But then again, in a few years, who knows what a house like this will cost.
āI would love to stay in Californiaā
For those who donāt have relatives in a position to help, owning a house in California can feel unachievable.
Stephanie Pavón has been renting in Northeast Los Angeles with her husband Fernando for about six years. The couple has a 15-month-old son. Theyāve considered buying a house. But Pavón said even with their decent incomes, they canāt save up enough for a down payment.
āA big factor in our staying where we are is that we donāt have assistance from other family,ā said Pavón.
Theyāve watched prices in their neighborhood skyrocket. A three bedroom house on their street recently sold for $1 million. Another house in the area ā barely bigger than their apartment at 789 square feet ā is on the market for $499,000.
āThere are so many people like myself who canāt afford to live in a house like this. And I do wonder who can,ā she said.
Pavón said her family could continue to rent in Los Angeles, or they could join her sister-in-law in Texas.
āI would love to stay in Los Angeles,ā she said. āI would love to stay in California.ā
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Note about data: The California Dream collaborative analyzed 89 months of FHA loan data for California, from January 2011 ā May 2018. That data, which represents over 600,000 mortgages, is available here. Lenders submit the information about down payment support to HUD, and family support does not necessarily mean that relatives provided 100 percent of the down payment. On the map, we chose to show the data broken down by ZIP code, the most specific geography available. The shapes on the map are ZIP Code Tabulation Areas, which are approximations of ZIP codes, created by the U.S. Census. All ZIP codes shown on the map had at least 50 loans during this time period. Some ZIP codes are missing because they didnāt have enough loans.